Sometimes I think about my new reality, and it can be a bit disorienting. Many of the people who are most important to me in my day-to-day life are people I hadn’t even met a year and a half ago. Coming out changes everything. It certainly has in my life. Some of my...

I got back home to Rohnert Park after midnight last night, and I still hadn’t posted anything. The need for sleep triumphed over my commitment to posting every day. So, just to keep the numbers ascending, let’s pretend I posted this last night. ?Later today I’ll post...

Well, my friends, I’m off to San Francisco Pride for the weekend. I’ll be hanging out with friends today and tomorrow, and leading worship at MCC San Francisco tomorrow at noon and 7pm. I won’t be checking Facebook much, so I’ll respond to comments...

I’ve said a lot over the last 23 days. More than some of you ever wanted to hear from me, I’m sure. (Can I get an “Amen”?) I thought today I’d ask a few questions. These are honest questions, meaning I don’t know your answers to them. And they’re questions I’ve been...

I knew this day was coming, but I didn’t know it had arrived. If not for a Facebook message from a friend, it would have quietly passed me by.Today the Annual Meeting of the Evangelical Covenant Church voted to remove me from their ministerium. To be fair, they were...

People told me it would be hard.When I was in the process of contemplating coming out, I was fortunate to connect with several people who had walked this road ahead of me. They showed me that there was real life on the other side. But they all said it would be hard....

Today I just want to take a moment to highlight the work of another amazing organization. The Reformation Project (www.reformationproject.org) is a Bible-based, Christian grassroots organization that works to promote inclusion of LGBT people by reforming...

When I was in the final months of living in the closet, music became increasingly important to me. I had so many songs I turned to when I needed encouragement. I had playlist after playlist, and they became the soundtrack to my coming out. Some songs are probably...

One of the harmful myths of the ex-gay movement is that one of the causes of “same-sex attraction” is a poor relationship with one’s father. The idea is that gay men like me didn’t properly bond with our fathers because for whatever reason they were distant or absent....

Last night I stepped onto a stage in San Mateo and sang a song. I had been invited to perform, along with an award-winning entrepreneur, activist and spoken word artist named Regina Evans and a local dance team called Free2Worship, at an event to raise...