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Best Friends

Best Friends

Sometimes I think about my new reality, and it can be a bit disorienting. Many of the people who are most important to me in my day-to-day life are people I hadn’t even met a year and a half ago. Coming out changes everything. It certainly has in my life. Some of my...

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Christians Talk

I got back home to Rohnert Park after midnight last night, and I still hadn’t posted anything. The need for sleep triumphed over my commitment to posting every day. So, just to keep the numbers ascending, let’s pretend I posted this last night. ?Later today I’ll post...

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“But Your Identity Is In Christ”

Well, my friends, I’m off to San Francisco Pride for the weekend. I’ll be hanging out with friends today and tomorrow, and leading worship at MCC San Francisco tomorrow at noon and 7pm. I won’t be checking Facebook much, so I’ll respond to comments...

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Honest Questions

I’ve said a lot over the last 23 days. More than some of you ever wanted to hear from me, I’m sure. (Can I get an “Amen”?) I thought today I’d ask a few questions. These are honest questions, meaning I don’t know your answers to them. And they’re questions I’ve been...

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I Love the Cov

I knew this day was coming, but I didn’t know it had arrived. If not for a Facebook message from a friend, it would have quietly passed me by.Today the Annual Meeting of the Evangelical Covenant Church voted to remove me from their ministerium. To be fair, they were...

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Telling the Whole Story

People told me it would be hard.When I was in the process of contemplating coming out, I was fortunate to connect with several people who had walked this road ahead of me. They showed me that there was real life on the other side. But they all said it would be hard....

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The Reformation Project

Today I just want to take a moment to highlight the work of another amazing organization. The Reformation Project (www.reformationproject.org) is a Bible-based, Christian grassroots organization that works to promote inclusion of LGBT people by reforming...

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All Will Be Well

When I was in the final months of living in the closet, music became increasingly important to me. I had so many songs I turned to when I needed encouragement. I had playlist after playlist, and they became the soundtrack to my coming out. Some songs are probably...

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Happy Father’s Day

Happy Father’s Day

One of the harmful myths of the ex-gay movement is that one of the causes of “same-sex attraction” is a poor relationship with one’s father. The idea is that gay men like me didn’t properly bond with our fathers because for whatever reason they were distant or absent....

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Going Home

Last night I stepped onto a stage in San Mateo and sang a song. I had been invited to perform, along with an award-winning entrepreneur, activist and spoken word artist named Regina Evans and a local dance team called Free2Worship, at an event to raise...

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“Spiritual direction—also called spiritual companionship—explores a deeper relationship with the spiritual aspect of being human. Simply put, spiritual direction is helping people tell their sacred stories everyday.”

Liz Budd Ellmann, MDiv, former Executive Director, Spiritual Directors International

I am honored to serve as a spiritual director through The Christian Closet, offering web-based counseling, coaching and spiritual direction for LGBTQ Christians.