Really nice shout out from Brett Trapp on the Sorta Awesome podcast. I really appreciate the chance to help other people who find themselves in mixed-orientation marriages. So grateful for Luanne’s and my TEDx talk and the way God is...

It’s June 30, so today will be my last post for Pride Month. Thanks to everyone who read along and especially to those who commented and messaged me. I’m blown away by how many people were challenged or moved or encouraged or even frustrated with these posts this...

I’m coming up to the end of my month-long writing project. Two entries to go. Tomorrow’s post will take a lot of thought and time, so today’s is going to be a little more lighthearted and fun.On June 4, @jpbrammer tweeted: “remember what it felt like when you saw a...

I have a box of journals I look at from time to time. I have them arranged in chronological order so I can see what I was thinking and feeling at different times in my life. The first journal I have is a brown “Executive Planner 1986.” When I was fourteen, I decided I...

San Francisco Pride was this past Saturday and Sunday. I want to reflect on what I saw and experienced and see what comes out in my writing. My weekend started on a disappointing note. First of all, on Wednesday I got very sick… chills and sore throat and stuffy...

Sometimes I think about my new reality, and it can be a bit disorienting. Many of the people who are most important to me in my day-to-day life are people I hadn’t even met a year and a half ago. Coming out changes everything. It certainly has in my life. Some of my...

I got back home to Rohnert Park after midnight last night, and I still hadn’t posted anything. The need for sleep triumphed over my commitment to posting every day. So, just to keep the numbers ascending, let’s pretend I posted this last night. ?Later today I’ll post...

Well, my friends, I’m off to San Francisco Pride for the weekend. I’ll be hanging out with friends today and tomorrow, and leading worship at MCC San Francisco tomorrow at noon and 7pm. I won’t be checking Facebook much, so I’ll respond to comments...

I’ve said a lot over the last 23 days. More than some of you ever wanted to hear from me, I’m sure. (Can I get an “Amen”?) I thought today I’d ask a few questions. These are honest questions, meaning I don’t know your answers to them. And they’re questions I’ve been...

I knew this day was coming, but I didn’t know it had arrived. If not for a Facebook message from a friend, it would have quietly passed me by.Today the Annual Meeting of the Evangelical Covenant Church voted to remove me from their ministerium. To be fair, they were...