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The Church and Me  —  Pride Month Ramblings #30

It’s June 30, so today will be my last post for Pride Month. Thanks to everyone who read along and especially to those who commented and messaged me. I’m blown away by how many people were challenged or moved or encouraged or even frustrated with these posts this...

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Queer Person Owning It – Pride Month Ramblings #29

I’m coming up to the end of my month-long writing project. Two entries to go. Tomorrow’s post will take a lot of thought and time, so today’s is going to be a little more lighthearted and fun.On June 4, @jpbrammer tweeted: “remember what it felt like when you saw a...

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My Journals – Pride Month Ramblings #28

I have a box of journals I look at from time to time. I have them arranged in chronological order so I can see what I was thinking and feeling at different times in my life. The first journal I have is a brown “Executive Planner 1986.” When I was fourteen, I decided I...

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Best Friends – Pride Month Ramblings #26

Best Friends – Pride Month Ramblings #26

Sometimes I think about my new reality, and it can be a bit disorienting. Many of the people who are most important to me in my day-to-day life are people I hadn’t even met a year and a half ago. Coming out changes everything. It certainly has in my life. Some of my...

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Christians Talk – Pride Month Ramblings #25

I got back home to Rohnert Park after midnight last night, and I still hadn’t posted anything. The need for sleep triumphed over my commitment to posting every day. So, just to keep the numbers ascending, let’s pretend I posted this last night. ?Later today I’ll post...

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Honest Questions – Pride Month Ramblings #23

I’ve said a lot over the last 23 days. More than some of you ever wanted to hear from me, I’m sure. (Can I get an “Amen”?) I thought today I’d ask a few questions. These are honest questions, meaning I don’t know your answers to them. And they’re questions I’ve been...

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I Love the Cov – Pride Month Ramblings #22

I knew this day was coming, but I didn’t know it had arrived. If not for a Facebook message from a friend, it would have quietly passed me by.Today the Annual Meeting of the Evangelical Covenant Church voted to remove me from their ministerium. To be fair, they were...

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Telling the Whole Story – Pride Month Ramblings #21

People told me it would be hard.When I was in the process of contemplating coming out, I was fortunate to connect with several people who had walked this road ahead of me. They showed me that there was real life on the other side. But they all said it would be hard....

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