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Finding Ourselves in the Story of Lazarus
On Sunday, June 30, 2024, I was invited to preach at CityChurch San Francisco for the final Sunday of Pride Month. Unfortunately their livestream failed, so rather than share the video, I'm going to post the sermon here on my blog. Maybe it will encourage you to find...
![Pride 2024: The Great Cloud of Queer Witnesses](https://mattnightingale.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/05/carlos-de-toro-carlosdetoro-RwfoOIv2g4A-unsplash-scaled.jpg)
Pride 2024: The Great Cloud of Queer Witnesses
Photo by Carlos de Toro @carlosdetoro on Unsplash Here we are again. Pride Month 2024. Since coming out in 2016, I have tried, to varying degrees of success, to write about my relationship with Pride here on my blog. In 2017, I wrote about my first San...
![National Coming Out Day 2023](https://mattnightingale.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/delfi-G3B_N13fgEU-unsplash-scaled2.jpg)
National Coming Out Day 2023
Today is National Coming Out Day. You've probably already seen a bunch of posts on Facebook and Instagram by people who are bravely sharing the truth about their sexuality or gender identity for the first time. And I will be the first to cheer these folks on. There is...
![A Pride Month Conversation with Natalie Drew](https://mattnightingale.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/355874926_10162632685080681_904118736492364519_n-e1687898715351.jpg)
A Pride Month Conversation with Natalie Drew
I came out of the closet in 2016, nearly seven years ago now. It was an exciting time for me in many ways. After 44 years of living in the closet, I was finally free to live "in congruence with reality" as an openly gay man. And the United States in 2016 seemed to...
![The Beautiful Tenacity of Queer Christianity](https://mattnightingale.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/01/324871612_951851739464996_2581643807781423067_n.jpg)
The Beautiful Tenacity of Queer Christianity
The Group Photo on Sunday Morning of the Q Christian Fellowship Conference in Washington, DC. Can you find me? From January 5-8, I spent four days with 500+ LGBTQ+ Christians in Washington, DC, at the Q Christian Fellowship Conference. I heard amazing speakers like...
![2022 in Review](https://mattnightingale.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/2022_new_year_golden-scaled.jpg)
2022 in Review
It's 10am on Saturday, December 31, in Santa Rosa, California. It's cold and dark and absolutely pouring outside. I'm still in my pajamas and sitting in my bed with my laptop and my coffee. Apple Music is shuffling through my Replay 2022 playlist, and I'm diving into...
![Queer Enough, In or Out of the Closet](https://mattnightingale.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/IMG_5533-scaled.jpg)
Queer Enough, In or Out of the Closet
It's #NationalComingOutDay, and every year I think about how I grateful I am to be on this side of the closet door. It's been over 6 years now since I decided to live in congruence with reality, and although I can't say that it's been all rainbows and unicorns, I've...
![A Different Kind of Pride Month](https://mattnightingale.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/pexels-north-1280638-scaled.jpg)
A Different Kind of Pride Month
It's June 19, 2022, and I'm just now writing my annual Pride Month post. I know, I know... It's not like me, is it? I haven't even put the obligatory rainbow filter on my social media profile pictures! I guess it's just a different kind of Pride Month for me this...
![Some Helpful Background For Conservative Christians Who Want To Talk With Me About Sexuality](https://mattnightingale.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/IMG_1876.jpg)
Some Helpful Background For Conservative Christians Who Want To Talk With Me About Sexuality
Last Sunday afternoon I got involved in yet another conversation with a conservative Christian on Twitter who wanted to "stand up for the truth" and tell me that I was living in sin. This is nothing new. I talk with people like this all the time, and I honestly...
![One of These Things Is Not Like the Others](https://mattnightingale.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/One-of-These-Things.jpg)
One of These Things Is Not Like the Others
“There's no such thing as a Gay Christian any more than there's such a thing as a Thieving Christian or a Child-Molesting Christian or a Murdering Christian.” Justin Peters, as quoted by @krazy4ujc over on Twitter last week. I guess I just got fed up. We Christian...
Liz Budd Ellmann, MDiv, former Executive Director, Spiritual Directors International