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Gay God Love Year

Gay God Love Year

A few weeks back, I wrote about why my identity as a gay man matters — even in church, maybe even especially in church. I'm glad that I was able to find the words and that they resonated with so many of you. It led to some good, healthy conversations on Facebook and...

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We Get It, You’re Gay

We Get It, You’re Gay

includer © David Hayward aka The Naked Pastor Purchase a print here. I recently got some feedback about my ministry from someone who used to go to my church. He basically said "I don't want to hear that Matt's gay every Sunday." Oof. I'll admit it. That hurt a little...

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Deeply Christian and Profoundly Gay

Deeply Christian and Profoundly Gay

It's National Coming Out Day, and I have been doing a lot of thinking about my identity. For many, many years I tried to deny a central part of myself, and when I finally came out publicly in 2016, it was really important to me to "live in congruence with reality."...

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Not a Good Look

Not a Good Look

This is not a good look for The Evangelical Covenant Church. It's fascinating for me to watch all of this from the outside. I DEEPLY understand all of the perspectives, both conservative and progressive, that surround this issue. I understand the reasons that my...

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Meeting Marsha Stevens

Meeting Marsha Stevens

<br /> I grew up listening to this song. It was basically a standard in my family and in the churches in which I grew up. And the more I learn about its writer, the more excited I get to meet her and experience her ministry this afternoon.  "For Those Tears...

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“Every gay person must come out…”

“Every gay person must come out…”

June is always an important month for LGBTQ+ people, a chance for us to celebrate the beauty and diversity of our community and to fight against oppression and injustice in all areas of our lives. It's also a time for queer people to come out, to speak our truth...

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One Spot Left

One Spot Left

Last night I spent a couple of hours with six men from all over the United States and Canada. Such a diversity of age, family, career, faith backgrounds, financial situations and life experiences. The one thing they all shared in common? They are all gay men who, for...

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#UnchangedLGBTQ

#UnchangedLGBTQ

I'm delighted to be featured as part of Q Christian Fellowship's #UnchangedLGBTQ series this week. And I'm grateful for the opportunity to publicly thank four people who made such a difference in my life. So much love to you, Justin Lee, Fred Harrell, Annie...

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Meeting Cleve Jones

Meeting Cleve Jones

What a beautiful man. Cleve Jones co-founded The San Francisco AIDS Foundation and came up with the idea for the AIDS Memorial Quilt. He is a pioneer for LGBTQ+ people and an absolute hero to me.In the final chapter of his autobiography, When We Rise, he...

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Gay God Love Year

A few weeks back, I wrote about why my identity as a gay man matters — even in church, maybe even especially in church....

We Get It, You’re Gay

includer © David Hayward aka The Naked Pastor Purchase a print here. I recently got some feedback about my ministry from...

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