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An Advent Invitation for Bay Area Folks

An Advent Invitation for Bay Area Folks

If you need a little breathing space before Christmas gets too intense... Sometimes it feels like hope is in short supply. The world seems to be enveloped in darkness, and everywhere you look, people are frustrated, disappointed, angry and hopeless. But throughout the...

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Jackie Hill-Perry and “Gay Girl, Good God”

Jackie Hill-Perry and “Gay Girl, Good God”

This afternoon a friend asked me a question about Jackie Hill Perry. She said someone at her church had recommended Hill-Perry's book "Gay Girl, Good God" as proof that God "can cure homosexuality." I had some thoughts. Might as well share them with everyone, right?...

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Boy Erased

Boy Erased

Last night I went to see the new movie Boy Erased, based on the memoir of the same name by Garrard Conley. Many of you know that I share a similar story of attempted “conversion therapy” and have asked for my thoughts. I highly recommend the movie, and I...

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National Coming Out Day

National Coming Out Day

It's #NationalComingOutDay. Now, it's no secret that I'm gay, but it was. For a very long time. And for me, coming out was one of the most important moments of my life. It has not been easy... In fact, the last couple of years have been more difficult than I...

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Advocating for Church Clarity

Advocating for Church Clarity

I'm honored to be featured as an advocate on the Church Clarity website. It's so important for LGBTQ+ people to know where churches stand on the issue of inclusion. Many of us have paid a high price to finally be honest. We think that churches should be...

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Sorta Awesome

Sorta Awesome

Really nice shout out from Brett Trapp on the Sorta Awesome podcast. I really appreciate the chance to help other people who find themselves in mixed-orientation marriages. So grateful for Luanne’s and my TEDx talk and the way God is...

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The Church and Me  —  Pride Month Ramblings #30

It’s June 30, so today will be my last post for Pride Month. Thanks to everyone who read along and especially to those who commented and messaged me. I’m blown away by how many people were challenged or moved or encouraged or even frustrated with these posts this...

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Queer Person Owning It – Pride Month Ramblings #29

I’m coming up to the end of my month-long writing project. Two entries to go. Tomorrow’s post will take a lot of thought and time, so today’s is going to be a little more lighthearted and fun.On June 4, @jpbrammer tweeted: “remember what it felt like when you saw a...

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My Journals – Pride Month Ramblings #28

I have a box of journals I look at from time to time. I have them arranged in chronological order so I can see what I was thinking and feeling at different times in my life. The first journal I have is a brown “Executive Planner 1986.” When I was fourteen, I decided I...

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Meeting Cleve Jones

What a beautiful man. Cleve Jones co-founded The San Francisco AIDS Foundation and came up with the idea for the...

When We’re Closest To God

Throwback to little Matt enjoying the swimming pool. I wasn’t thinking about whether I was too fat or whether it looked gay...

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