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Let Us Not Become Weary In Doing Good

Let Us Not Become Weary In Doing Good

This morning I got a Facebook DM from a woman I haven't heard from in over five years. She went to the church that I resigned from when I came out publicly in 2016. I didn't know her well back then, but I always thought of her as a good person, someone who was very...

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This Is Who I Am

This Is Who I Am

Yesterday on Twitter I identified myself as a "gay, liberal, agnostic Christian mystic," and it got a lot of attention. I had people DMing me and texting me, asking me to talk a little bit more about that. Some people despise labels and do everything they can to avoid...

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Full Circle

Full Circle

Four years ago I was a full-time worship pastor at Redwood Covenant Church (now Bayside Church of Santa Rosa). I was married to my wife of 23 years, and we still had three children in our home. Things looked fine on the outside, but on the inside things were starting...

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Yes, It’s Sad

Yes, It’s Sad

A few days ago I had a conversation with a gay man in his sixties who is joining my next Christian Closet support group for gay/bi men in mixed-orientation marriages. I wrote about my conversation on Facebook: I just got off the phone with the sweetest guy. He's in...

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2019 in Review

2019 in Review

I'm sitting in the Hobby Airport in Houston, Texas on the afternoon of December 30, 2019. I have a few more hours to wait until I board my flight to Fort Lauderdale for the Q Christian Fellowship Conference, where I'll be performing at Q Night Live and helping to lead...

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Now It’s Your Turn: An Exhortation for Allies

Now It’s Your Turn: An Exhortation for Allies

Last week I was so encouraged to read the news that a relatively prominent Evangelical Covenant Church called Vox Veniae in Austin, Texas (read their 2013 New York Times profile here) was choosing to disassociate from their denomination rather than submit to its...

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Hold On a Little More: Encouragement for Advent

Hold On a Little More: Encouragement for Advent

It started the evening of June 18th. I was in bed working on my computer when out of nowhere my left arm felt very wrong, like it had suddenly fallen asleep. My forearm and fingers felt numb, and I couldn't move my hand normally. I leapt out of bed in a panic and...

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I Give Thanks

I Give Thanks

I'm in one of my favorite places this morning, sitting on the couch in my pajamas with my laptop. I feel so at home in this cozy little house in Berkeley. For the last three and a half years, since that life-changing day in May of 2016, Annie and Victoria's house has...

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#10YearChallenge

#10YearChallenge

I’ve never been one to stand on the sidelines, especially if there’s a bandwagon to jump on. So here’s my contribution to the #10YearChallenge. 2009 was a good year in many ways. I had just started my new job as worship pastor at Redeemer Covenant Church in...

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Gay God Love Year

Gay God Love Year

A few weeks back, I wrote about why my identity as a gay man matters—-even in church, maybe even especially in church. I'm glad that I was able to find the words and that they resonated with so many of you. It led to some good, healthy conversations on Facebook and...

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Be Free, Siblings

Be Free, Siblings

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A Plain Reading of Romans 1

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2021 in Review

2021 in Review

It's become a tradition of mine to look back through my Instagram on New Year's Eve and reflect on the past twelve months....

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