Exploring the Intersection of

Sexuality & Spirituality

Matt Nightingale


As a gay Christian, I am passionate about the intersection of sexuality and spirituality, and I work to create safe, sacred space for people exploring these identities.

Let’s journey together.

Take the First Step

Here are some ways I can walk this journey with you.

Spiritual Direction & Support Groups

Whether in a one-on-one session or a small group setting, I will help you clarify your values and needs and take the next step.

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Book Me

Whether you need a panelist, a preacher or a worship leader, I’m available for your event.

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Blog and Podcast Appearances

Check out what I’ve been writing and talking about lately. And don’t forget to subscribe to get the latest content delivered straight to your inbox.

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Sign up for the next support group

This six-week package includes weekly 90-minute group sessions and two 50-minute one-on-one sessions with me. It is my hope and prayer that as we journey together, you will find hope and encouragement for your present situation and peace and discernment for your next steps.
This Is My Story

In November 2016, my former wife, Luanne Nightingale, and I gave a talk at TEDx Sonoma County. “Choosing Gratitude and Hope” tells the painful but ultimately redemptive true story of our 23-year mixed-orientation marriage and our choice to end it with gratitude and hope.

Read the latest on my blog

I write to encourage and strengthen you. Check out my latest post below, or view the whole blog here. Don’t forget to subscribe to my mailing list below so I can send new posts directly to your inbox.

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Be Free, Siblings

Be Free, Siblings

There are so many tortured queer folks out there, desperately searching the scriptures for affirmation, reading and watching everything they can get their hands on. Brownson convinces them that they can be a faithful gay Christian, then Gagnon convinces them they...

Listen to my podcast appearances

I’ve had the privilege of being a guest on several podcasts. Listen to those episodes here, and then subscribe to my mailing list so we can stay connected.

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Tammy Faye, AIDS & Jesus: A Conversation with Rev. Steve Pieters

Tammy Faye, AIDS & Jesus: A Conversation with Rev. Steve Pieters

Join Common Sanctuary founder and executive director Matt Nightingale as he talks with pastor, educator and activist Rev. Steve Pieters about his life and work, including his groundbreaking interview with Tammy Faye Bakker on the PTL Club in 1985, as depicted in the...

Helping You Navigate Your Journey.
Matt is very compassionate, empathetic and supportive. He’s always honest about his own experiences, both positive and negative, but he is able to reframe things in a positive light.

Jordan, Support Group Participant

Let's Connect
I'd love to chat with you. You can send me an email, or just use the form to contact me. You can also text or call me directly at 918-408-6082.

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