Exploring the Intersection of

Sexuality & Spirituality

Matt Nightingale

PASTOR, SPEAKER, SPIRITUAL DIRECTOR, GROUP FACILITATOR, WRITER, ACTIVIST

As a gay Christian, I am passionate about the intersection of sexuality and spirituality, and I work to create safe, sacred space for people exploring these identities.

Let’s journey together.

Take the First Step

Here are some ways I can walk this journey with you.

Spiritual Direction & Support Groups

Whether in a one-on-one session or a small group setting, I will help you clarify your values and needs and take the next step. Learn More

Book Me

Whether you need a panelist, a preacher or a worship leader, I’m available for your event. Learn More

Blog and Podcast Appearances

Check out what I’ve been writing and talking about lately. And don’t forget to subscribe to get the latest content delivered straight to your inbox. Learn More

Sign up for the next support group

This six-week package includes weekly 90-minute group sessions and two 50-minute one-on-one sessions with me. It is my hope and prayer that as we journey together, you will find hope and encouragement for your present situation and peace and discernment for your next steps.
This Is My Story

In November 2016, my former wife, Luanne Nightingale, and I gave a talk at TEDx Sonoma County. “Choosing Gratitude and Hope” tells the painful but ultimately redemptive true story of our 23-year mixed-orientation marriage and our choice to end it with gratitude and hope.

Read the latest on my blog

I write to encourage and strengthen you. Check out my latest post below, or view the whole blog here. Don’t forget to subscribe to my mailing list below so I can send new posts directly to your inbox.

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Pride 2024: The Great Cloud of Queer Witnesses

Pride 2024: The Great Cloud of Queer Witnesses

Photo by Carlos de Toro @carlosdetoro on Unsplash Here we are again. Pride Month 2024. Since coming out in 2016, I have tried, to varying degrees of success, to write about my relationship with Pride here on my blog. In 2017, I wrote about my first San...

Listen to the podcasts and watch the videos

I’ve had the privilege of being a guest on several podcasts and videos. Listen to and watch those episodes here, and then subscribe to my mailing list so we can stay connected.

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Through the Long Night: A Conversation with Matt Heincker

Through the Long Night: A Conversation with Matt Heincker

Join Common Sanctuary founder and executive director Matt Nightingale as he talks with his friend Matt Heincker, creator of the podcast "Through the Long Night." Heincker was in one of Matt's early support groups for gay men in mixed-orientation marriages, and he's...

Helping You Navigate Your Journey.
Matt is very compassionate, empathetic and supportive. He’s always honest about his own experiences, both positive and negative, but he is able to reframe things in a positive light. Jordan, Support Group Participant