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La La La La: The Story of an Accidental Contemplative
Since beginning the Journey Center Association’s Spiritual Director Formation Program in 2017 and then graduating and starting my own practice as a spiritual director in 2019, my life has been increasingly formed by the contemplative path. It might seem out of...

Trans Day of Visibility 2025
It took me a long time to accept myself as a gay man, loved by God and accepted as I am. To my shame, it took me even longer to accept my transgender siblings. For a long time, I just didn't understand. It all seemed to foreign to me. Because my own experience of...

I’m So Proud of You
In my role as a spiritual director, I have the privilege of working with more than thirty different clients every month. All of my directees identify somewhere on the LGBTQIA+ spectrum, and as you can imagine, we talk about a wide range of things going on in their...

National Coming Out Day 2024
We're everywhere, you know. We are your brothers, your sisters, your teachers, your uncles, your aunts, your children, your grandparents, your Uber drivers, your barbers, your favorite actors and singers and writers and yes, even your pastors. And as Harvey Milk...

What Is a Woman? A Call for Humility, Curiosity and Compassion
[UPDATE: Khelif just won the Gold Medal in women's boxing!] Last Thursday social media blew up with allegations that a "man" had somehow gotten into Olympic women's boxing. Nevermind that Imane Khelif was born a girl in Algeria, a conservative country where 99% of the...

Finding Ourselves in the Story of Lazarus
On Sunday, June 30, 2024, I was invited to preach at CityChurch San Francisco for the final Sunday of Pride Month. Unfortunately their livestream failed, so rather than share the video, I'm going to post the sermon here on my blog. Maybe it will encourage you to find...

Pride 2024: The Great Cloud of Queer Witnesses
Photo by Carlos de Toro @carlosdetoro on Unsplash Here we are again. Pride Month 2024. Since coming out in 2016, I have tried, to varying degrees of success, to write about my relationship with Pride here on my blog. In 2017, I wrote about my first San...

National Coming Out Day 2023
Today is National Coming Out Day. You've probably already seen a bunch of posts on Facebook and Instagram by people who are bravely sharing the truth about their sexuality or gender identity for the first time. And I will be the first to cheer these folks on. There is...

A Pride Month Conversation with Natalie Drew
I came out of the closet in 2016, nearly seven years ago now. It was an exciting time for me in many ways. After 44 years of living in the closet, I was finally free to live "in congruence with reality" as an openly gay man. And the United States in 2016 seemed to...

The Beautiful Tenacity of Queer Christianity
The Group Photo on Sunday Morning of the Q Christian Fellowship Conference in Washington, DC. Can you find me? From January 5-8, I spent four days with 500+ LGBTQ+ Christians in Washington, DC, at the Q Christian Fellowship Conference. I heard amazing speakers like...
Liz Budd Ellmann, MDiv, former Executive Director, Spiritual Directors International