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Do I Sound Gay?

I’m fascinated by gay stereotypes. I wonder what it is about gay men in particular that makes us tend to lisp, talk with our hands and love Barbra Streisand.No, but really! Why was I, at twelve years old, riding my bike to the public library to pick up Barbra...

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The Liturgists

Tonight, another resource. If you’re a fan of Gungor or Mike McHargue — Science Mike, you’ll love The Liturgists’ podcast. Honestly, I have not found a better resource for exploring progressive Christianity. It’s hard to name a favorite episode....

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Soccer Dads

Today, another song. Just a demo recorded with an electric keyboard and my iPhone in the kitchen last spring. The lyrics were written in my journal on a soccer field one Saturday afternoon. Zachary was playing, and these words just came spilling out onto the...

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Meeting Annie

Meeting Annie

I get out of my car and look up at the quaint little house surrounded by flowers and trees. It’s quiet on this street, even though we’re so close to downtown Berkeley. I have just driven an hour on a Friday afternoon to meet Annie for the first time. It’s May of 2016,...

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Remembering Orlando

Remembering Orlando

One year ago today, 49 LGBTQ people were killed in the most deadly mass shooting in modern American history. That day changed my life forever. I want to honor the victims’ memories and express my gratitude in today’s post.On June 12, 2016, I was still in the closet. I...

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Why Am I Doing This?

I’ve had some people ask why I’m doing this. Why take the time to write about my life and experiences as a gay Christian man? I suppose it might seem self-centered or narcissistic, and who knows? Maybe it is. I am all too aware of my sinfulness, my seemingly endless...

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In Defense of Conservatives

Today I want to write in defense of my conservative friends and family. I know over the last year my Facebook feed has gotten more and more liberal. Sometimes, to be honest, it’s like living in an echo chamber. I think we all acknowledge that phenomenon. So really,...

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A Slippery Slope

Today I want to encourage you to read this blog post by Kevin Garcia. Kevin is a gay Christian blogger and podcaster, and I love his work. I became aware of Kevin on Twitter, and he’s been a constant inspiration and encouragement to me over the past year. Fun...

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Just Showed Up for My Own Life

Thank you so much for all the interaction with my post yesterday. It was a deeply personal one, and I’m so grateful for all the comments and the private messages. I will respond to all of you as I have time.Today I simply want to share a song. Sara Groves is...

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Careful What You Wish For

The following is a blog post I wrote on March 31, 2016. It’s probably the most personal thing I’ve ever posted here, and to be honest, It’s difficult for me to read. I’m in a much brighter, more hopeful place today, and I’m so very grateful. But there were many dark...

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Full Circle

Full Circle

Four years ago I was a full-time worship pastor at Redwood Covenant Church (now Bayside Church of Santa Rosa). I was...

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2019 in Review

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Spiritual Direction & Support Groups
“Spiritual direction—also called spiritual companionship—explores a deeper relationship with the spiritual aspect of being human. Simply put, spiritual direction is helping people tell their sacred stories everyday.”

Liz Budd Ellmann, MDiv, former Executive Director, Spiritual Directors International

I am honored to serve as a spiritual director through The Christian Closet, offering web-based counseling, coaching and spiritual direction for LGBTQ Christians.