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All Will Be Well

All Will Be Well

When I was in the final months of living in the closet, music became increasingly important to me. I had so many songs I turned to when I needed encouragement. I had playlist after playlist, and they became the soundtrack to my coming out. Some songs are probably...

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Happy Father’s Day

Happy Father’s Day

One of the harmful myths of the ex-gay movement is that one of the causes of “same-sex attraction” is a poor relationship with one’s father. The idea is that gay men like me didn’t properly bond with our fathers because for whatever reason they were distant or absent....

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Going Home

Going Home

Last night I stepped onto a stage in San Mateo and sang a song. I had been invited to perform, along with an award-winning entrepreneur, activist and spoken word artist named Regina Evans and a local dance team called Free2Worship, at an event to raise...

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Do I Sound Gay?

Do I Sound Gay?

I’m fascinated by gay stereotypes. I wonder what it is about gay men in particular that makes us tend to lisp, talk with our hands and love Barbra Streisand.No, but really! Why was I, at twelve years old, riding my bike to the public library to pick up Barbra...

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The Liturgists

The Liturgists

Tonight, another resource. If you’re a fan of Gungor or Mike McHargue — Science Mike, you’ll love The Liturgists’ podcast. Honestly, I have not found a better resource for exploring progressive Christianity. It’s hard to name a favorite episode....

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Soccer Dads

Soccer Dads

Today, another song. Just a demo recorded with an electric keyboard and my iPhone in the kitchen last spring. The lyrics were written in my journal on a soccer field one Saturday afternoon. Zachary was playing, and these words just came spilling out onto the...

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Meeting Annie

Meeting Annie

I get out of my car and look up at the quaint little house surrounded by flowers and trees. It’s quiet on this street, even though we’re so close to downtown Berkeley. I have just driven an hour on a Friday afternoon to meet Annie for the first time. It’s May of 2016,...

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Remembering Orlando

Remembering Orlando

One year ago today, 49 LGBTQ people were killed in the most deadly mass shooting in modern American history. That day changed my life forever. I want to honor the victims’ memories and express my gratitude in today’s post. On June 12, 2016, I was still in the closet....

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Why Am I Doing This?

Why Am I Doing This?

I’ve had some people ask why I’m doing this. Why take the time to write about my life and experiences as a gay Christian man? I suppose it might seem self-centered or narcissistic, and who knows? Maybe it is. I am all too aware of my sinfulness, my seemingly endless...

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In Defense of Conservatives

In Defense of Conservatives

Today I want to write in defense of my conservative friends and family. I know over the last year my Facebook feed has gotten more and more liberal. Sometimes, to be honest, it’s like living in an echo chamber. I think we all acknowledge that phenomenon. So really,...

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Meeting God in a Gay Spa

Meeting God in a Gay Spa

God met me in a gay spa in Puerto Vallarta last week. Alejandro's Valentine's Day gift to me was two hours (deep tissue...

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Sin

I've been thinking a lot about the fundamentalist/Evangelical understanding of sin. I remember spending a lot of time and...

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“Spiritual direction—also called spiritual companionship—explores a deeper relationship with the spiritual aspect of being human. Simply put, spiritual direction is helping people tell their sacred stories everyday.”

Liz Budd Ellmann, MDiv, former Executive Director, Spiritual Directors International

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