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Boy Erased

Boy Erased

Last night I went to see the new movie Boy Erased, based on the memoir of the same name by Garrard Conley. Many of you know that I share a similar story of attempted “conversion therapy” and have asked for my thoughts. I highly recommend the movie, and I...

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National Coming Out Day

National Coming Out Day

It's #NationalComingOutDay. Now, it's no secret that I'm gay, but it was. For a very long time. And for me, coming out was one of the most important moments of my life. It has not been easy... In fact, the last couple of years have been more difficult than I...

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Advocating for Church Clarity

Advocating for Church Clarity

I'm honored to be featured as an advocate on the Church Clarity website. It's so important for LGBTQ+ people to know where churches stand on the issue of inclusion. Many of us have paid a high price to finally be honest. We think that churches should be...

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Sorta Awesome

Sorta Awesome

Really nice shout out from Brett Trapp on the Sorta Awesome podcast. I really appreciate the chance to help other people who find themselves in mixed-orientation marriages. So grateful for Luanne’s and my TEDx talk and the way God is...

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The Church and Me  —  Pride Month Ramblings #30

It’s June 30, so today will be my last post for Pride Month. Thanks to everyone who read along and especially to those who commented and messaged me. I’m blown away by how many people were challenged or moved or encouraged or even frustrated with these posts this...

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Queer Person Owning It – Pride Month Ramblings #29

I’m coming up to the end of my month-long writing project. Two entries to go. Tomorrow’s post will take a lot of thought and time, so today’s is going to be a little more lighthearted and fun.On June 4, @jpbrammer tweeted: “remember what it felt like when you saw a...

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My Journals – Pride Month Ramblings #28

I have a box of journals I look at from time to time. I have them arranged in chronological order so I can see what I was thinking and feeling at different times in my life. The first journal I have is a brown “Executive Planner 1986.” When I was fourteen, I decided I...

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Best Friends – Pride Month Ramblings #26

Best Friends – Pride Month Ramblings #26

Sometimes I think about my new reality, and it can be a bit disorienting. Many of the people who are most important to me in my day-to-day life are people I hadn’t even met a year and a half ago. Coming out changes everything. It certainly has in my life. Some of my...

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Christians Talk – Pride Month Ramblings #25

I got back home to Rohnert Park after midnight last night, and I still hadn’t posted anything. The need for sleep triumphed over my commitment to posting every day. So, just to keep the numbers ascending, let’s pretend I posted this last night. 😉Later today I’ll post...

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Some Thoughts About Romans 1

Conservative, non-affirming Christians often cite Romans 1 when condemning gay Christians like me… I posted this as a...

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