It’s #NationalComingOutDay. Now, it’s no secret that I’m gay, but it was. For a very long time. And for me, coming out was one of the most important moments of my life. It has not been easy… In fact, the last couple of years have been more difficult than I ever imagined. But is it worth it? Yes. Because from here on out, all I ever have to do is tell the truth. All I have to do is be my authentic self. The deep-down joy and the sweet relief that permeates my life as a result of living in congruence with reality is enough to keep me moving forward even through sometimes painful, challenging times. I’ll never forget July 15, 2016. I’m so grateful.
And my heart goes out to those who are still in the closet for whatever reason, especially those who find themselves in complicated and painful situations as a result. To the gay men and women married to opposite-sex spouses. To the straight spouses who feel hopeless. To the kids in non-affirming families and churches. To the trans people who are not able to feel comfortable in their own bodies or present themselves in ways that feel truthful. To the elderly LGBTQ people who wonder whether coming out would be worth it after so long.
Your story is yours. Your decisions are yours. I can’t pretend to know what is best for you. But my prayer for you today is that you will find a way to live authentically. That you will be known and loved for who you are, not who you are pretending to be. You deserve nothing less. ❤️
My son is having a very difficult time coming out he’s 48 years old he’s been fighting it for years I never knew, I don’t know what to do to help him. I told him it doesn’t bother me it’s ok but that’s not enough.
I’m sorry to hear that. Even in 2019, sometimes it is so difficult for people to come out of the closet. Sometimes it’s our religious or cultural background, or sometimes it’s our own internalized homophobia. I pray that he finds the strength and support to embrace the fullness of who he is.